Sunday, May 23, 2010

Girlcrush...The Update...

Girlcrush...she & I had something of a come-to-Jesus conversation the other day. I was getting irritated at her constant pressure to "just get a sitter & come to the club".  Now this chic has 3 kids but somehow has easier access to babysitters than a dog has to fleas & has family nearby to boot, which we do not. The sitter situation is less of an issue than the club talk though. I'm not sure that Mr. Man & I are ready for the swinger club scene regardless. She says "you will be kicking yourself once you realize how fun it is", etc etc. I'm quite sure its entertaining & something we may explore at some point, but not now, for various reasons I don't feel like getting into. And so I told her to lay off & that if we weren't comfortable with it yet then we just weren't & to each their own basically. I'm hesitant about that whole thing anyway for some reason. She asked me over the other night & I had no legitimate reason for saying no, but made up an excuse anyway. Now why would I do that if I were totally into it? I came to the conclusion that I didn't want to play with one or both of them without Mr. Man along. I told her that as well & so here we are. I do find her fun & attractive, just a bit aggressive. Her husband is a whole other issue. And then there's that other thing...
 
Ok, the above was in draft and I'm now coming back to it. Today, right now, in this moment that I sit here, I think I'm gonna nix the Girlcrush thing. Something is just off about it and I don't get a good vibe. (hehheh, i said "vibe") And isn't there some wise saying about always following your instincts, trusting your gut, etc? Yeah. Eh, I just don't know. I'm not feelin' it. I can hear all of you more experienced swinger type peeps yelling at me..."hello, you just spelled out RED FLAGS in your first paragraph, you are an idiot"! Ok ok, I hear you. Chill.
 
Ok, moving on. If things change on this front, you'll be the first to know. Peace.

5 comments:

  1. Definitely sounds like the right move. I mean, you are ready when you are ready. Not when someone else decides you are. But you know that already. Do what you want at your own pace - should be your major rule. :)

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  2. you answered all your own questions, i dig that about u. :) When the right one comes along, you will be into it, and you will know it!

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  3. Definitly trust your gut. You don't have to act on something that makes you uncomfortable.

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  4. You did a good thing by backing out of the whole situation. If you don't feel comfortable, then it's not the right person for you to pursue. There will be plenty of other crushes for you, ones you are totally into.

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  5. Pushy is not sexy and it's really disrespectful. Rule number one of swinging is respect. Good for you to have figured out something was off.

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