Here's a little secret.
Sometimes I don't want sex but I do want to just cuddle. Cliche? Perhaps, but that doesn't make it not true. I don't always need or want sex to feel intimacy. And it hurts my feelings a smidge when I can't just be held or caressed without being expected to "put out" as the grand finale of a cuddle session. It kind of taints the enjoyment of the touching. Because in my crazy little brain I'm thinking, "ok, we've been cuddling for about 3.42 minutes, I'll probably be expected to spread'em in another 2.56 or so"...I'm counting how much time I have left to enjoy the cuddling. So maybe that's a slight exaggeration but you get my point.
The truth of the matter is that the closer I feel to you, the more I will want to rip your clothes off and fuck your brains out. And I feel closer to you when we can sometimes just cuddle, talk, kiss, hold hands, watch tv together in bed snuggled under the covers, all that girly mushy crap. Sometimes I like just doing those things and that's enough for the time being. Maybe you won't get sex after snuggling with me tonight, but tomorrow night I will be remembering how sweet you were, how good it felt to be in your arms, what a romantic guy you are, and I will want to ride you like a drunk cowgirl. That way, we both win!
Bottom line...occasional cuddling-only sessions will fuel future passionate fuck sessions. Trust me, it really works that way. I'm all for a better balance of sex and cuddling. Fair and Balanced Sex and Cuddling folks, that's my platform.
That is all. Goodnight.