adventures in online shenanigans

This week's *adventures on okcupid...persistent men.

• If I didn't respond to your first two messeages, I'm probably not going to respond to your next ten. 
• Thank you for your phone number (that I didn't ask for) but I'll not be using it.
• If you insist on calling me "babe" or "beautiful" or "honey" or "darling" or any other patronizing endearment, I will cut you. At least mentally.
• Don't repeatedly bug me about meeting up with you.
• I do not want your unsolicited cock photo.
• Message of the day from someone who'd already messaged me and I hadn't responded..."Hey babe, I'm waiting for your text (gives me his number again). I want the same thing you do. Looking forward to hearing from you." No, you are not looking for the same thing I am. Read the profile again. Or actually, don't. Just go away.

Maybe this makes me sound like a bitchy okc user, but I think not for the most part. Because there are a handful of people who send the right mix of polite but not boring, funny but not ridiculous, interesting but not too bizarre messages and we engage in enjoyable adult conversation just fine.

*I may make this a regular series. Ha.

In other news...

• Mr. Man had a date tonight that didn't work out. I was asleep when he got home so I didn't get details yet but it was one of those not-really-compatible, not his/her type kind of things. A bummer but it happens.
• Considering a profile on openminded.com
• I am bored

xoxo,
Bella

the internets

As I slowly make my way back onto various internet thangs I remember how frustrating it can be. And yet, so very entertaining. I'm back on Fetlife and okc for starters. Vastly different websites but the basic point is the same....people looking for others with similar interests and goals. Whether that be friendship, dating, or fucking. Or any combination of those.

Fet is interesting and sexy and I find less of a vibe of desperation there. I honestly learn a lot from that site and its proven to be a decent BDSM resource for me.

On okc, I get the gamut of sincere curious questions, ridiculous propositions, lame pick up lines, and the occasional intelligent, witty, original message that peaks my interest. For now, it's an interesting diversion and considering I've met a few people on there that I continue to see and consider great friends, it's worth filtering through the douche-bags to find the cool ones.

Speaking of the internet, this blog is in sore need of a makeover, including a new platform other than Blogger given recent changes to their policy on adult content. I'm researching options so we'll see where I end up, but Bella needs a new home and a new look.

So much internet, so little time.

new things

Synopsis...Mr. Man is out on a date, things with New Guy (who shall be known as "Cash" from here on out) have been progressing and a meeting is in the works very soon, and my brain finally clicked over, stopped being a bitch and freed me from something that had been holding me mentally hostage for months. These are all good things y'all. And I needed some fucking good things to happen.

So, as I mentioned, Mr. Man went on a first date with a new lady friend tonight and I'm halfway waiting up for him and halfway recovering from some serious masturbation on film. I haven't talked to her but I've seen her picture and she's beautiful. Lovely even. Mr. Man has been chatting with her for a couple of weeks now and is quite smitten. Tonight is their first face to face meeting and sex was not on the table (so to speak) for tonight but you never know what may happen in the heat of the moment and he has full "permission" to do whatever, within our rules. Otherwise, the plan was dinner and the drive-in movie I believe. I helped him pick out his shirt, reminded him to have mints on hand and sent that crazy kid on his way. I'm crossing my fingers that they hit it off, and yes dear readers, you will be among the first to know.

Cash and I have been texting a lot and I'm not sure how I'm going to have my first meeting with him and NOT fuck him, to be quite honest. As I told him, I am cautiously optimistic about this. He's single at the moment, which is new for me, and I think a huge positive. He knows what I want from this and I know what he wants and they are simpatico. Friends with benefits, no strings, no drama, and goddamn it, we actually like each other a lot on a vanilla level. He contacted me on OKC and when I checked out his profile it was way different from the standard drivel, really interesting and well, he intrigued me. He's just...different, in a cool way and so far we seem to click well. Plus, he's hot and is interested in many of the same things sexually, that I am. We're hoping to meet up in the next week or two. Fingers crossed. I've already broken a few rules with this kid...I gave him this blog address, told him my real name, sent him naked pics that included my face, AND fucking came for him on video. If I ever run for public office and dude is pissed at me, I am so screwed.

In other news, I'm finally moving past some things in mah brain and that's good, although there are bittersweet mixed emotions still lingering that will always be there I suspect. My head took a lot of extra time to catch up with the reality of the situation and I am finally there and can breathe again. I know that's vague but that's how it is. Life ain't easy and thank goodness it isn't or we'd never learn anything from it. So sez I.

Oh, and lastly, I took a hot bath tonight and it was delicious. And no, Mr. Man still isn't home so stop asking.

xoxo,
Bella

online boredom and enigma

Ok y'all. I must be bored because I'm back on OKC. (If you don't know what that is, you probably shouldn't be reading this blog) AFF lasted a hot minute because of ads and pushy selling tactics and a horribly ugly web platform. SLS has been super boring lately. There are a few other sites that we're going to check out because apparently, Mr. Man is bored too. Ha! Sometimes I think there's something wrong with us because we both crave sex with other people when we have each other. Like we shouldn't even be married, except for tax purposes. Its a conflict in mah brain sometimes. Pretty sure it goes along with my growing restlessness and this is some sort of compromise. Hmmmmm. Too much to say on that topic to delve into tonight.

OKC is fun, but as a chick, I get a zillion messages and just have to laugh at most of them and ignore or block. But there are always a few interesting ones...There's one who is particularly charming at the moment and hot as fuck, with the bald head and facial hair thing that I love..and he's of some ethnic persuasion that I can't quite pinpoint yet. Pretty sure he's out of my league but he's fun to talk to for now. I don't have a full face picture on there yet and of course get the "let me see your face pics", to which I have to give the spiel about discretion and jobs and "no face until I'm convinced you're not a creepster or are going to out me and aren't from the Westboro Baptist Church", etc etc. Its exhausting. Thus my conclusion that I must be bored. And restless.

This has been a post.
xoxo,
Bella